Christianity & Polyamory

A 4-Week Course + Facilitated Group Discussion on how polyamory fits into a Christian ethic and how polyamory can deepen our understanding of God & faith


Class is in session. Registration is closed.

Here's what we're doing...

Who is this course for?

  • If you are in or interested in an open or polyamorous relationship and want some tools to navigate that with more grace, ease, and intention
  • If you are in or interested in an open or polyamorous relationship and want to integrate that with your understanding of your Christian faith and want to learn how polyamory can help us understand the divine and our Christianity faith more deeply
  • If you are a spiritual leader (pastor, lay leader, etc) and want to better support the people you serve who may be polyamorous, in an open relationship, or exploring either (or both)  

What will it cover?

  • The basic terms and concepts of polyamory and open relationships -- if you’re not poly or you’re new to open relationships, you’ll be able to understand the broad strokes, major ideas, and common words
  • How polyamory and open relationships fit into a Christian ethic
  • We'll explore how polyamory is not just "ok" but also how polyamory can help us understand our faith even more deeply... Things like God’s love, abundance, community, the trinity, Jesus’s ministry, and more!
  • Some practical tactics on navigating open and polyamorous relationships  

Who is this not for? What will it not cover?

  • We aren’t going to go deep on discerning if an open or polyamorous relationship is right for you and your specific context (if you want that support, let’s talk)
  • It’s not a step-by-step guide on how to open up a monogamous relationship (if you’re interested in resources for that, let me know)
  • It’s not therapy — if you have deep personal or relational issues (anxiety, depression, abuse, trauma, infidelity, addiction, etc.), I urge you to seek the support of a licensed, LGBTQ-affirming, poly-competent therapist to work through that. This course can certainly supplement that work, but it’s not a replacement for therapy when needed.  

What's Included

There's A LOT in here — we're including a bunch of different teaching and communiacting options so that you can learn and engage in the ways that are right for you. This is what you'll get

4 Weeks of Lessons

Each week, you'll get new materials: PDF lessons plus videos and audio recordings to give you the workng knowledge, practical tools, and theological insight to thrive in an open or polyamorous relationship as a Christian (or support those you know who are in one!)

Weekly Q&A Call

Early in each week, Brian will host a 30-minute Q&A call to review any questions that you have about the course materials. 

You'll be able to pre-submit questions if you can't join the session live. If you can tune in, even better, you'll be able to ask followup questions there too. 

The Q&A calls are recorded so you can watch them at any time and still get your Q's A'ed :)

Weekly Group Coaching

Later each week, Brian will host an hour-long group coaching call to dive into the week's topic. We'll share our experiences with the topic at hand, go through our responses to the week's exercises, troubleshoot any pressing issues, and get clarity on any new questions that have come up.  

These call are recorded, too, so you can benefit from the wisdom of the group even if you can't make it live.

Interactive Online Community

Throughout the course — and after — you'l be part of a private Slack community to talk about the materials, ask questions, and share what comes up for you.  

You'll have easy, direct access to ask Brian and Fr. Shay questions as well as hear from other participants. This is a great way to stay connected betewen live sessions or if you can't attend any live still participate with the group.

Access to all of Sanctuary Collective

Your registration in Christianity & Polyamory comes with all-inclusive access to everything inside of Sanctuary Colletive for three months.  

An LGBTQ Christian Guide to Self Care, Walking Toward Resurrection: A Transgender Passion Narrative, a 6-week self-study course on how to read the BIble queerly, and so much more. 

Course Dates May 22 - June 21 

New lessons become available every Saturday morning

Q&A calls are held weekly on Monday or Tuesday of each week (early afternoon for Eastern time),

Group Coaching/Discussion calls are held weekly on Thursday or Friday of each week (evenings for Easter time). 

Exact days and times of live sessions will be determined after registration. Reminder: all live sessions are recorded and you can pre-submit questions if you can't join live.

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Weekly Breakdown

Each week, in the course materials, Q&A call, and group coaching, we'll focus on a different area. This is the agenda. Or "syllabus" for you fancy folks ;) 

WEEK 1 How we know it’s OK to be Christian & polyamorous What the Bible says, how to read the Bible in the first place, how polyamory fits with a Christian sexual ethic, and addressing common objections

WEEK 3 The Poly God How polyamory can enrich our understanding of God and give us new ways of thinkng and talking about the Divine

WEEK 2 The Nuts & Bolts of Polyamory Tools and tactics for putting polyamory into practice: navigating shame & jealousy, different ways to structure your relationship, healthy communication, and more!

WEEK 4 The Poly Gospel How polyamory pairs with the Gospel, enriches our understanding of it, and can be a faithful way of living into it.

About Brian G. Murphy

Brian G. Murphy is an activist, educator, and certified relationship coach. He grew up evangelical Christian in the Maryland suburbs of Washington, DC and for the past decade has been engaged in faith-based activism and social justice work. He participated in the 2007 Soulforce Equality Ride, co-founded Legalize Trans*, and most recently partnered with Fr. Shannon Kearns to create Queer Theology. He's spoken about faith, sexuality, gender, and justice at dozens of colleges and conferences across the USA.

In addition to being open and polyamorous for the past 8 years, Brian has also worked with dozens of LGBTQ+ and straight, cisgender Christians to navigate their relationships in healthy and faithful ways — from celibate to monogamous to polyamorous and all points in between.

Reviews from Our Community 

“I wanted to hear others' experiences with some of the things that I'm discovering about polyamory, and also meet some people who could become a better support group than what I have now.

"Hearing other's experiences and having my own feelings and experiences validated was definitely something that was meaningful to me. I truly appreciated some of the openness and honesty that I saw in the online group discussions."

- Jessica, Chicago

“Polyamory isn't a word I hear in church. And I still feel stigma, shame and guilt about my non monogamous relationships - especially around my Christian elders and friends. Being in Queer Theology's polyamory discussion group, watching Brian's videos, and sharing experiences and feelings with other polyamorous Christians is helping me see myself more fully, with loving hope.”

- Brandon, Texas

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The course is now in session & registration is closed

But don't worry, we'll be back later this year or in early 2020. If you want to get early access to the course (and a special offer), join the waitlist and we'll keep you in the loop!

Plus, when you register now, you also get instant access to all of Sanctuary Collective; including,

 Reading Queerly - How to read the Bible from a queer perspective

An LGBTQ Christian Guide to Self Care

Walking Toward Resurrection: a Transgender Passion Narrative

and more!